This post is part of two great participant fed blogs LindaGHill’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday (SoCS) and the Blogging from A to Z April 2015 Challenge (BATZAP).
We have all been in that situation where you have a loved one in the hospital, perhaps the matriarch or patriarch of the family. You always have that one individual, who is delegated either by age or by the hospitalized loved one, to handle all decisions regarding their care with their doctor, their aftercare, or even worse if there are any type of after life decisions. I bring this up because my mother-in-law of over 14 years has been hospitalized since late Sunday night with congestive heart failure. It has been determined she has two leaky valves, and three arteries that are clogged around 55%. These conditions do not make her a candidate for surgery and can be treated with medications and physician follow-ups on a very regular basis.
My partner Cruz is the oldest of 8 children, but besides that he is the most responsible and his mother has delegated him to be the one to handle all types of said decisions mentioned above. All but one of her children live in San Antonio, in fact one lives right around the corner form her and has nothing to do with her. She has not even been to the hospital to see her. The youngest flew in from Baltimore and is here at least until Tuesday, and this is the most respectful I have ever seen him treat her in all these years.
All of a sudden these siblings and their wives who never go over to see their mother, do not cook for her, do not spend the holidays with her, (they stopped doing these things almost 9 years ago when Cruz’s father passed away) – now seem to come out of the woodwork and act like they are so concerned about their mother. She calls me her other son because I treat her better than her own children. I am sitting here listening to them discuss with Cruz what the next steps should be and I am feeling so frustrated for him and for his mother.
This would all be fine and good if there was an ounce of responsibility and desire for any of these individuals to follow through with what they are talking about. The problem is, this is not the case. As soon as she is at home and they believe that she is fine and good, they will be off and running leaving everything up to Cruz!!! That is just the way they are!! Who the hell do they think they are. Cruz’s momma has already made sure that Cruz is responsible for all of her care decisions and if God forbid he has to make any after life care decisions.
So today and for the remainder of her care for this situation I will continue to bite my lip and offer “A PIECE of PEACE!”
Until next time, that’s “What’s Rattling My Cage!”